in this pandemic was learning that all of our comfy and
familiar things became the most dangerous: being with close friends
eating together, our own home, meeting for a beer became potentially
were forced to become colder towards each other.
we need to figure out what is the new normal, or if we can return to
how things used to be. There is so much anxiety and depression, but
also a desire to catch up on a lost year. There have been headlines
suggesting this will be a wild summer of sex and release for many.
is a transgressive walk along Donaukanal, exploring uncomfortable and
sexy ideas with a progressive audience. Are you ready for it? Where
did sex go in the pandemic? What
are the trends in dating? How
can we get back to the closeness and ease of pre-pandemic intimacy?
Who is still getting it, where, and from whom? We want to explore
what is going wrong, but also how we can share best-practice, between
before corona, relationships were
changing, through Tinder, dick pics, porno and #meToo.
Young people are much more comfortable with expressing their feelings
and doubts and needs. There is a new fluidity on gender, and
acceptance of otherness. Wien has been producing great music
reflecting these changes, from Kerosin95, Mavi
Phoenix and Ebow.
is a longer-term trend away from marriage, parenting and even
relationships. Some people prefer the simplicity of having sex with
themselves, rather than the complications, stress and expense of
dating. And Tinder can be thrilling but also confusing, with so much
choice - and also the pressure to look good, with so much focus on a
single photograph. Learning sex from porno is catastrophic, but
became the default dating option in 2020, so there is also a meta
level to our tour about contemporary dating trends.
start our tour, as 1000s
of young people
some of us also feel nervous about meeting strangers, but it is a
we will share stories of our good and bad dating stories, as we move
1 and 2.
relationships were put under unbearable strain last year, with
couples spending all day and night in the same space. We came to
recognise the value of leaving the house, to have a rhythm to each
day, create adventures outside and come home with stories to tell. We
need release, independence, and an escape route to friends, family or
other roles than simply everything all at once at home. There was an
increase in domestic violence, combined with new financial worries,
and a fear of the future.
men continued their old lifestyle of minimal contribution
to children and housework, while sitting beside their busy partners
doing their "job". And
so women's roles either went back into 1950s stereotypes, or they got
angry and left their partner. Many
couples split, once they had no fresh air, just 24 hours of each
will also explore some surprising results of the latest social
science research. That most women now dress to impress each other,
and not men. That men are more keen to have big muscles, when a
majority of women do not find this so attractive. Judging by
pornography, the average man does not find skinny women attractive,
and yet that is how many women would like to be. Dating apps force
you to think not just about what kind of person you are looking for,
but also who you yourself are. This is productive. This new style of
finding a partner means that people are more likely to date somebody
from a different social class or ethnic background. The range of
choice is much wider than your office, street or friends of friends.
We now have to learn a new language of online dating: ghosting,
swipe right. How many people know that, in the LGBTQIA+ group of
'alternative' sexualities, that A stands for asexual?
While many credit the Austrian psychoanalyst Wilhelm Reich with coining the term ‘sex positivity’ in the mid-1900s, as part of his discourse on sex as a healthy aspect of humanity, other groups embraced a sex-positive ethos well before he did.
However, a global shift in attitudes towards sexuality can be traced back to 2002, says Prior, when the World Health Organization updated its definition of sexual health to include pleasure, safety, a lack of coercion and freedom from violence and discrimination – an approach that acknowledged the positive aspects of sex, as opposed to focusing on the risks. This new definition widened the discussion and helped influence the creation of organisations that adopted a more joyful outlook on sex, including The Center for Positive Sexuality, which launched in 2007.
Wir freuen uns sehr über die finanzielle Unterstützung der Wirtschaftsagentur Wien und über die Förderung von Wien Tourismus, der Mobilitätsagentur und diversen Mediengruppen (inklusiv ORF). Außerdem sind wir stolz, dass wir in die Initiative Reparatur der Zukunft aufgenommen wurden, eine Kooperation von Ö1, Forum Alpbach, Ars Electronica und Akademie der bildenden Künste Wien.